Dating in the french culture
So, if you fancy going to the cinema, tell him you want to go to the cinema.If you like a bar or café in your quartier, tell him to meet you there for a drink.Bad news if he belongs to the tribe of baggy linen pants and ribbed turtlenecks. You’ll have the pleasure of explaining particularly American concepts such as Snooki, Shamu, Spring Break, Texas and Pizza Bites. He’ll comment on your outfits (positively) and discuss style in general more than an American boy might. He’s probably well-traveled considering that living in France allows you the advantage of hopping over to Italy or Spain for a weekend. Unless he magically learned English from watching episodes of : Angry/hungry, happiness/a penis. He’ll probably do all he can to give you respect and treat you like a princess.I tend to find these confused moments to be hilarious and endearing. While we grow up thinking about love in black and white, they grow up inscrutably grey.As post 50s swell the ranks of the online dating market looking for love, this French flower metaphor takes on new luster that merits reflection.Many years ago I was in a park in Paris with a girl named Sandrine who was pining away for a boy named Pierre.
This sounded perfect until I Googled the bar and saw it was listed as, ‘Un établissement gay et lesbian’.If the sun is shining, tell him you’d love to take a walk along the Seine.Once he gets to know you better though, make sure you’re not doing all the deciding work.This is how the French are groomed to think about love from an early age: not in the absolutes of total love or utter rejection, but in nuances and a range of possibilities.It dawned on me at that moment that while we Americans are groomed to seek happy endings and closure, the French are more comfortable with emotional subtleties and ambiguity.